Well a bit of an update, a big one at that. I switched over to the Amsoil 5w-30 syncromesh and boy am I impressed.
I'm at 40k mi now and swapped to Lucas 75w-90 synthetic at about half that mileage ( I guessed on oil weight, read further).... It remedied the 2nd gear grind and made shifting in general marginally better.. However there was a caveat, cold weather shifting was a PITA, anything related to 1st or 2nd gear was slow and cumbersome shifting, the rest weren't bad but marginally worsel than stock. Once the trans warmed up it wasnt bad, still the cold mournings made it seem like a trade off.
The Amsoil on the other hand is resulting in excellent shift quality all around. My 1st drive with the fluid was in 15F weather, normally grabbing 2nd is a 2-3 second ordeal putting strong pressure on the shifter, downshifting to 1st or 2nd were also inconvenient when cold (i'd resorted to taking off in 2nd and rolling stop signs in 2nd until the trans was warm :/).
But this mourning was like grabbing any other gear with a warm trans. Getting into 2nd wasn't ideal but it was better than the Lucas fluid was warm and alil better than the stock fluid. Once warm shifting was almost perfect. With the solid shift bushings, solid trans mount, and Amsoil fluid it was really good...:.......... Like $50k car good, as it should be. Massive improvement!
I've still got to test it against the 2nd gear grind but im optimistic, will report back on that. So far thou I'm extremely pleased.
Also those thatve been on the forum for awhile should know I'm not one to just jump on the bandwagon or succumb to the placebo effect, this stuff is really looking like a magic elixir so far in. Ofcourse I'm still going to hold some reservations, although in this case I doubt I'll be disappointed.
Tl;Dr. Amsoil syncromesh does wonders for the transmission shifting, hot, cold, It's great.